Taylor Swift gets pretty candid about the public's perception of her love life in the April issue of Vanity Fair, but the interview does not necessarily make the reader feel bad about the negative stigma surrounding the singer's love life.
After reading Taylor's interview, we've come up with five easy pieces of advice for the "I Knew You Were Trouble" singer that'll work out much better for her than playing the victim.
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1. Learn to laugh at yourself
If you're an A-list celeb at the Golden Globe Awards with Amy Poehler and Tina Fey hosting, you have to be for a joke or two spun your way. If you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen. But when Taylor is asked about Hollywood mean girls, specifically being poked fun at by Tina and Amy at the Globes, she responds, "You know, Katie Couric is one of my favorite people, because she said to me she heard a quote she loved that said, 'There's a special place in hell for women who don't help other women.'"
Really? You're sending Tina Fey and Amy Poehler to hell because they made a few jokes while hosting an awards show? Next time, just take it with a grain of salt and LAUGH right along with everybody else.
2. Date guys your own age
After having her heart broken by guys like Jake Gyllenhaal and John Mayer, both significantly older than Taylor, she moved onto Conor Kennedy and Harry Styles, who were 5 and 4 years younger, respectively. "She dated Jake and John when she was really young and they were in their 30's, and she got really hurt," a source authorized tells the mag. "So it was like 'That hurt, this won't.' And then it did."
Taylor hasn't dated a guy her own age since Joe Jonas in 2008 (she was also linked to Taylor Lautner, who falls on the younger side as well). Although that was a rough breakup at first, the two are actually amicable now, which is more than can be said about any of Taylor's other relationships. Isn't it time she tried out a guy in her own age range once again, especially now that she's 23 and (hopefully) more mature? YES!
3. Embrace songwriting success instead of listening to the haters
Taylor is known to get pretty specific about her love life when writing songs for her albums, and obviously she's doing something right considering she's a Grammy-winning millionaire. But still, there are those haters out there who tear down Taylor's songwriting tactics. "For a female to be portrayed as some clingy, insane, desperate girlfriend in need of making you marry her and have kids with her, I think that's taking something that potentially should be celebrated -- a woman writing about her feelings in a confessional way -- that's taking it and turning it and twisting it into something that is frankly a little sexist," she said to Vanity Fair.
Really? Sexist? You're going there? Taylor sells out arenas and make millions of dollars on every album she ever produces, so it really doesn't matter if someone says something negative. The success speaks for itself.
4. Take your next relationship SLOWLY
All of Taylor's relationships have been pretty short-lived, never lasting more than a few months at a time. Regarding her breakup with Harry, Taylor's source tells the mag she originally broke up with him a long time ago, after he warned her about a photo of him kissing another girl "goodbye," which turned out to be a shot of him hardcore making out. Harry then allegedly pursued Taylor for almost a year before she finally took him back, and we all know how quickly things escalated from there (and how quickly they fell apart).
"The whole time she says she feels like he's looking at every other girl," Taylor's source reveals of the reconciliation, adding that he disappeared one night while the couple was in London "and after that it was like he just didn't want to keep it going." (Disclaimer: Harry's rep denies the source's claims).
We can look past the fact that Taylor took Harry back after he cheated on her, because it was a year later and maybe she figured he actually did mature. However, there was absolutely no reason for Taylor to fall so hard and fast for this guy again and get so serious so quickly. It's hard to have a normal relationship with all the traveling and long distance, but there's more than one way to embrace time together than overnight hotel stays every night during the first month of your relationship, right?
5. ACTUALLY ignore (or embrace?) the tabloid rumors
"The fact that there are slide shows of a dozen guys that I either hugged on a red carpet or met for lunch or wrote a song with ... it's just kind of ridiculous," Taylor says. "It's why I have to avoid the tabloid part of our culture, because they turn you into a fictional character."
If you've seen all of these fun little slideshows, what "tabloid part of our culture" are you actually ingoring? It's obviously hard to ignore the rumors when reporters and paparazzi are screaming them in your face every time you try and go out for lunch, but in that case, why not turn it around and embrace your opportunity to get the truth out, especially for those completely ridiculous reports? For some reason, Taylor had no problem making it clear hat she wasn't dating Zac Efron last year, which ironically is probably the one thing she should want people thinking is true... but, to each their own!
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